I was planning on writing a “stunning” comparison between the Japanese relationship culture and the Chinese relationship culture (a new hobby of mine) until I received an e-mail from a newsletter member – and off I go a ranting…
Understanding Japanese culture DOES matter!
There, I got it off my chest.
You see, the e-mail I received talked about how your Japanese girlfriend should love you for who you are, which includes loving everything about your own culture. Now boys, yes it is true that she should love you for who you are… but just where does a large part of your personality come from? The answer: your culture. And following this line of thinking: where does a large part of your Japanese girlfriend’s personality come from? The answer: Japanese culture!
The more you understand Japanese culture the more you will understand your Japanese girlfriend!
Likewise, your Japanese girlfriend should try to learn more about your own culture so she can understand you better. (Give and take is a sweet thing.)
Also, if a Japanese woman should love you for who you are, does that mean you should NOT try to act in a more Japanese way to make her feel more comfortable around you?
Of course not!
Even if you were dating a woman from your own country you would try to do certain things (related to her personality) to make her feel comfortable around you. You wouldn’t completely change your personality for her, but you would try to slightly adjust your actions in a way that brings the two of you closer together. (Be honest, guys. We DO adjust ourselves to a certain degree to win the heart of that beautiful woman.)
Understanding Japanese culture IS important for a strong and loving relationship. Sometimes acting a little more Japanese to help your Japanese girlfriend feel comfortable IS important (because mature relationships are about give and take.) And if you think that you don’t need to do a damn thing in a relationship to make it work then be prepared for hard times ahead.
End of rant.