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Understanding Japanese Women!
In this post we’ll talk about… well… not talking.
Marriage with a Japanese woman certainly is an adventure… especially when she prefers not to talk. Unlike marriages in the West (where it is encouraged to keep the conversation flowing between both members as long as the marriage lasts) Japanese women yearn to have a marriage where unspoken understanding becomes the normal way to “communicate.”
I was planning on writing a “stunning” comparison between the Japanese relationship culture and the Chinese relationship culture (a new hobby of mine) until I received an e-mail from a newsletter member – and off I go a ranting…
Understanding Japanese culture DOES matter!
There, I got it off my chest.
You see, the e-mail I received talked about how your Japanese girlfriend should love you for who you are, which includes loving everything about your own culture. Now boys, yes it is true that she should love you for who you are… but just where does a large part of your personality come from? The answer: your culture. And following this line of thinking: where does a large part of your Japanese girlfriend’s personality come from? The answer: Japanese culture!
Right now you could be destroying your romance with your Japanese girlfriend.
How? By clinging to her too much.
It is important to show your love to your Japanese girlfriend, but it’s a completely different thing to smother her to the point of disgusting her. Sure, she may be the most gorgeous woman you have ever seen (as many Japanese women are 
) and you may feel emotions that you have never felt before, but very careful just how much “love” you show her.
Japanese women are mysterious in more than just outward appearances – they have a deep, inner mystery called culture that makes building successful relationships with them a challenge to anyone lacking the knowledge of the Japanese dating and relationship customs.
Contrary to what many men believe, all women world-wide do not act exactly the same way in romantic relationships. What may be correct behaviour for a Western woman to do in a relationship could possibly be rude, embarrassing, or both to a
Japanese woman. What may be considered an extremely loving gesture a Japanese girlfriend gives to her man may offer absolutely no feelings of love and affection to the man from his cultural point of view.
This is the reason for the creation of Japan Dating Tips and the e-book Understanding Japanese Women: to help men all over the world get the much needed advice and cultural tips to help them succeed with making a Japanese woman into a Japanese girlfriend, improving their relationship with a current Japanese girlfriend, and even smoothing out the bumps men encounter with a Japanese wife.
Many years ago when I was still working as an English teacher here in Japan I had the opportunity to teach an amazing Japanese woman…
I was sitting down in my favorite cafe where I taught most of my private English students. Across from me sat my new student — a 43 year-old Japanese woman who had lived in America for over 13 years.
I was excited to get this student, not because she was a “Japanese woman among Japanese women,” but because at first listen her English appeared to be almost spot-on perfect. As we talked, I could tell that her English proficiency was just the surface of her abilities. Her gestures, facial expressions, posture, and even how she walked told me that she really had absorbed so much more than just the English language.
