Clinging too much to your Japanese girlfriend

Right now you could be destroying your romance with your Japanese girlfriend.
How? By clinging to her too much.

It is important to show your love to your Japanese girlfriend, but it’s a completely different thing to smother her to the point of disgusting her. Sure, she may be the most gorgeous woman you have ever seen (as many Japanese women are :wink: ) and you may feel emotions that you have never felt before, but very careful just how much “love” you show her.


For some men this isn’t a problem: they can keep cool and calm during even the most loving and passionate relationships. But some men (even men who think they are strong now) crumble and degrade into babbling, love-sick wimps. It’s this kind of love-sick, spineless jellyfish of a man that will actually turn off your Japanese girlfriend and cause her to look for more “masculine” pastures.

Some examples of “overdoing” with your Japanese girlfriend include:

  • Saying “I love you” in an almost constant stream throughout the day.
  • Asking your Japanese girlfriend to constantly to say “I love you” to you.
  • Contacting her too much.
  • E-mailing her continuously with messages like “What are you doing now?”
  • Wanting too be touchy-feely in situations where she obviously doesn’t want to be

I’m reminded of a song by the 1970′s band, 38 Special (Yes, I’m that old.) I know, this reference is a little cheesy, but it really hits the nail on the head. Here are the lyrics:

You see it all around you
Good lovin’ gone bad
And usually it’s too late when you, realize what you had
And my mind goes back to a girl I left some years ago,
Who told me,
Just Hold On Loosely, but don’t let go
If you cling to tightly,
you’re gonna lose control
Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in

It’s so damn easy, when your feelings are such
To overprotect her, to love her too much
And my mind goes back to a girl I left some years ago
Who told me,
Just Hold On Loosely, but don’t let go
If you cling too tight babe,
you’re gonna loose control
Your baby needs someone to believe in
And a whole lot of space to breathe in

Don’t let her slip away
Sentimental fool
Don’t let your heart get in her way


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