Archive for the ‘Japanese Culture’ Category


UJW considered “required reading” by the JETaa of New York!

In the Summer 2009 issue of the JETaaNY Magazine (Japan Exchange and Teaching Alumni Association of New York), the Understanding Japanese Women was reviewed!

Below is the full article from that issue:

Like Japanese Girls? Then You Need This Book

By Rick Ambrosio

There I was again, outside my apartment, in the car with Hitomi. Again, at this awkward moment where we both fidget and she puts the Toni Braxton CD in. This is, of course, over a year ago, back in Japan. Even after living in Japan for a year and a half, I still had moments like this; social impasses as I liked to call them.

We both didn’t know what to say, or what to do. Well, in reality, I didn’t know what to say or do. This was before I understood what “nan demo ii” really meant, before I could fully understand all the silent cues. This was before I read the ebook called Understanding Japanese Women.

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Clash of cultures – a bad mix for dating

Here’s an interesting tid-bit I just learned the other day:
In China, small talk during a meal is considered very important to couples out on a date. Not to talk while eating could be considered impolite or a sign of no interest in the other person.

Sounds normal wouldn’t you say?

But in contrast, Japanese dating couples often sit in semi-silence while eating, only to enter into lively conversation once the meal has ended. (Please keep in mind that this generalization of Japanese dating culture refers to couples and not a huge party of drunken office workers out for a night on the town.)

Here’s a tid-bit about the Philippines:
A man should not visit his girlfriend’s relatives if he does not want the relationship to be viewed as a serious one.

Again, Japanese culture is different. Meeting the relatives doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship is a serious “we’re thinking about getting married” one.

So what’s my point in all of this?

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Japanese Culture is a MAJOR influence your relationships with Japanese women

Japanese women are mysterious in more than just outward appearances – they have a deep, inner mystery called culture that makes building successful relationships with them a challenge to anyone lacking the knowledge of the Japanese dating and relationship customs.

Contrary to what many men believe, all women world-wide do not act exactly the same way in romantic relationships. What may be correct behaviour for a Western woman to do in a relationship could possibly be rude, embarrassing, or both to a Japanese woman. What may be considered an extremely loving gesture a Japanese girlfriend gives to her man may offer absolutely no feelings of love and affection to the man from his cultural point of view.

This is the reason for the creation of Japan Dating Tips and the e-book Understanding Japanese Women: to help men all over the world get the much needed advice and cultural tips to help them succeed with making a Japanese woman into a Japanese girlfriend, improving their relationship with a current Japanese girlfriend, and even smoothing out the bumps men encounter with a Japanese wife.


“Your Japanese is Very Good!”

I know that many of the reader’s of the Understanding Japanese Women Blog live in Japan, and so what I’m going to talk about today most likely won’t be any big news to you. This post is for those of you who don’t live here or have just arrived in Japan and have yet to experience this silly situation.

What I’m talking about is the slightly annoying habit that Japanese people do. It’s the “Nihongo wa jyouzu desu ne!” (Your Japanese is very good!) compliment.

It’s something that 99.9999% (approximately 😉 ) of all Japanese people say to any foreigner who utters even the simplest of Japanese expressions, including “konnichi wa!” (Hello, Good Afternoon) It seems so odd to most Westerners living in Japan that Japanese people can offer up such glorious praise after hearing the simplest of utterances.

But there is a reason…

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