Archive for the ‘Dating Japanese Women’ Category


UJW considered “required reading” by the JETaa of New York!

In the Summer 2009 issue of the JETaaNY Magazine (Japan Exchange and Teaching Alumni Association of New York), the Understanding Japanese Women was reviewed!

Below is the full article from that issue:

Like Japanese Girls? Then You Need This Book

By Rick Ambrosio

There I was again, outside my apartment, in the car with Hitomi. Again, at this awkward moment where we both fidget and she puts the Toni Braxton CD in. This is, of course, over a year ago, back in Japan. Even after living in Japan for a year and a half, I still had moments like this; social impasses as I liked to call them.

We both didn’t know what to say, or what to do. Well, in reality, I didn’t know what to say or do. This was before I understood what “nan demo ii” really meant, before I could fully understand all the silent cues. This was before I read the ebook called Understanding Japanese Women.

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UJW Featured on Japan Times Website!

The Japan Times website released a very positive article about the Understanding Japanese Women e-book.

I’m so ecstatic that a source as credible as The Japan Times Online would write about it in the way that it was intended to be viewed – as a serious e-book to help Western men truly understand the dating and relationship culture of Japan and to offer honest solutions to the problems men face with Japanese girlfriends or Japanese wives.


Clash of cultures – a bad mix for dating

Here’s an interesting tid-bit I just learned the other day:
In China, small talk during a meal is considered very important to couples out on a date. Not to talk while eating could be considered impolite or a sign of no interest in the other person.

Sounds normal wouldn’t you say?

But in contrast, Japanese dating couples often sit in semi-silence while eating, only to enter into lively conversation once the meal has ended. (Please keep in mind that this generalization of Japanese dating culture refers to couples and not a huge party of drunken office workers out for a night on the town.)

Here’s a tid-bit about the Philippines:
A man should not visit his girlfriend’s relatives if he does not want the relationship to be viewed as a serious one.

Again, Japanese culture is different. Meeting the relatives doesn’t necessarily mean the relationship is a serious “we’re thinking about getting married” one.

So what’s my point in all of this?

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Japanese Relationships: It’s not always your fault!

I recently received an e-mail from man who just became “enlightened” (so to speak.) Right after he finished reading the Understanding Japanese Women eBook he sat down behind his computer to tell me this:

“My Japanese wife and I have been having problems recently. Your book is helping me realize that not all of the problems are made by me!”

Whether you have a Japanese wife or a Japanese girlfriend, there will come a time when problems will arise. And when they do, it is almost inevitable that you, the man, will get the blame.

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Understanding Japanese Culture DOES Matter!

I was planning on writing a “stunning” comparison between the Japanese relationship culture and the Chinese relationship culture (a new hobby of mine) until I received an e-mail from a newsletter member – and off I go a ranting…

Understanding Japanese culture DOES matter!
There, I got it off my chest.

You see, the e-mail I received talked about how your Japanese girlfriend should love you for who you are, which includes loving everything about your own culture. Now boys, yes it is true that she should love you for who you are… but just where does a large part of your personality come from? The answer: your culture. And following this line of thinking: where does a large part of your Japanese girlfriend’s personality come from? The answer: Japanese culture!

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